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BITTERSWEET

“Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature. “
 
A little shrimp.
A little cheese and chips.
A little crown and pepsi.
A little grilled mushrooms with cheese to share with a neighbor and his daughter who stopped by to wish us a “Happy, happy” and hugs.
A little sparkling wine – at almost the same time we said our vows – to toast the start to the 37th year of life in our journey together.
 
“To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom;…”
 
This is one of my bittersweet days. Initially, I thought I went out of my way to plan it that way – yet – the more I learn about Our Father – the more I realized that it wasn’t me at all – I’ve never been that wise. It was just one of those times, I actually had my spiritual ears set to high volume because in those days I was just learning to listen and was more often than not – deaf to His ways. Thus, one of the saddest days in my earth journey became one of the happiest days as well.
 
Bittersweet.
 
“…rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation.”
 
35 years doesn’t seem to cover much time when you are on this side of the 36. Back then – when the longest relationship I had ever had was 4 years with breaks here and there – I wasn’t sure I could make a commitment like my parents had.
 
You see. . .10 years prior to January 9, 1981, my parents celebrated their 35th anniversary on January 8, 1971. It was a Friday night, and I had just called home for my weekly check-in. It wasn’t their real anniversary which was in June, but a God-wink blessing brought the celebration to them anyway.
A little champagne.
A little shrimp.
A little crown and coke.
A little toast with family and friends.
Dad died Saturday morning while I watched a Barbra Streisand movie in the dollar theatre at OSU.
 
“It takes a lifetime to learn another person…When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected.”~Madeleine L’Engle, “The Irrational Season”
 
A sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.
A common phone in a rooming house.
A tear-filled voice of my mother – then my aunt.
A friend who lifted me through each step of the journey home and hugs through the days that followed.
 
“Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life.”~Prov 4:23
 
Bittersweet.
 
As it turns out, God had a plan – and go to find out – it was designed just for me. Crazy, huh? Parental Grandparents who got married on January 8, 1905 was a blip in that plan. The death of a daddy’s girl’s father, a much larger blip in the scheme of things. A whisper of vows at a friend’s Christmas re-marriage – another small blip.
 
All-in-all – Bittersweet.
 
It has been a good day. A day to renew my heart at the break of dawn and the sparkle of star light on a frosty night.
A day to look back.
A day to look forward.
A day to celebrate.
A day of love.
A day to whisper a prayer of thanksgiving.
 
A Bittersweet day of a tender heart.
 
“And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.”~Ez 36:26

Birthday Step 2014

I have learned a very valuable lesson today. Never mess with Mama Mick’s 3 layer chocolate cake…especially on her 78th wedding anniversary.

Since getting a new car took up most of yesterday, the Grands decided Grandma Bryn just needed to have a cake and some fun time today. So after church, the house was full of dogs, kids and laughter once again. Song/book/ writing turned into bubble play turned into Barbie play turned into cake making…

Let’s just say there is a certain magic to making a Grandma Mickey cake. There is a specific way of mixing the ingredients and timing is essential. You can ask anyone who has tried to make one just from just reading the recipe – it don’t work like any other cake. Adding ingredients in a specific order, in a certain way, at the precise time makes all the difference in the world. And today – for some reason – that just didn’t happen. I know Mama Mick and Daddy Mike were up in heaven  laughing their heads off at the mess in the kitchen. The cake overflowed the pans, smoke filled the house, batter caught fire in the oven (husband poured water on it) and even though the cake was in the oven over the alotted time it takes to bake – it never really became cake. Those orney faeries were definitely up to some magic tricks that just weren’t beneficial to a three layer cake. sigh.

Two hours later, “cake” scraped into a bowl, oven cleaned (enough to run the self-cleaning oven later tonight), oven racks cleaned (10 SOS pads later), “cake” was ready to serve. We decided to call it the “Fudge Cake Sundae Cake”. We made the Fudge filling that usually goes in the middle of the layers and drizzled it on top of the fudgy cake pieces, topped it with ice cream and whipped cream, then topped it all with a cherry. Two huge plates – five spoons (husband doesn’t like chocolate cake) – a birthday song – and cake was served.

Funny – there were so many blessings in this mess that I’m still smiling. My oven needed a good cleaning. Grandma Mickey cakes are good in any shape, form or pieces (although I did miss the 7 minute frosting- but whip cream is a good substitute =P ). The Grands’ chocolate covered mouths and tongues licking their bowls was worth everything that went wrong.

Our preacher taught us this morning that we need to keep our mind focused on Christ every moment of every day – every decision – every happening. If we let the negative rise up in our minds, we are forgetting to be the “Believers” that Christ knew lived within us. We need the “helmet of salvation” Ep 6:17 surrounding our head 24-7. This day could have been a disaster, but instead, it was amazing. A game of Falcon Corn Hole followed, A few more hugs and the dogs lay down to take a nap.

Second step into my 64th year has been taken. A few more pictures ready to be logged into the memory booklet. “This is the day that the LORD hath made; I will rejoice and be glad in it.” Ps 118:24…. or as the preacher said: “No stinkin’ thinkin’ will lead [me] to drinkin”…  well…for today anyway.

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